Babies and infants are no longer the majority of children adopted. Most children adopted today are older, have been in care because of assessments of parental mistreatment and will have ongoing relationships with members of their families of birth. These relationships, or at the least, some form of contact, can be decided by the courts or are come by via an informal arrangement. These relationships – or indeed their re-establishment – are rarely offered much attention yet all parties in the process: the child or young person, the adoptive parents, the birth family members, often struggle.